Hi Blizzard,
This is something that I struggle with so I'd like to comment. For me, I'm with Ananda..I talk to my sponsor and pray pray pray. Prayer helps me to feel closer to my HP and also helps me to realize that he/she/it is in control and not me. Do you start your day with prayer/meditation? I find that if I start my day that way, handling whatever may come up that day is much easier. I also let myself sit on the pity pot for maybe a day..then get off it as soon as I can!