hi mrs jules, i have just joined today and i think it sounds similar to my problem.
i started drinking at university and then ust carried on with what i considered wind down drinks and the end of the day. i have always been a night person and have problems sleeping so a few glasses would always help me sleep and then if i didnt then i would get no sleep. my partner doesnt drink at all in the week really so its not even social in any way for me ...i too am tired of not remembering anything and wondering if ive offended friends and having to ask my boyfriend what i did. i think you are right though it is just keeping busy and then after a while ull have a day when you didnt think about wanting a drink, stay strong x