((wenchris))
I can't imagine what you are going through. I agree with the others above, and it very well may be that your son may need to be baker acted. If there is just one small chance that he would hurt himself, he needs to be committed. It could be a blessing in disguise.
For you and your daughters and those babies, try to take comfort in the fact that there is a reason for why things are unfolding as they are, HP has surrounded those babies with human angels (you).
Hugs and lots of Prayers
B