There's this guy at one of my local Al Anon meetings who tells this really funny story about how when he started coming to Al Anon he got a ton of copies of the phamplet called 'Alcoholism, a merry go round called Denial' and posted them to all his family members.
I don't know what others have expereinced but despite my time in recovery my parents have never responded or become how I think 'they should be'.
For me, recovery started with forgiveness and that's a long process since there is alot to forgive!
Another person I know in Al Anon says she tells her kids, while her name maybe on 'their problems' the 'solutions' to these problems are labeled with their own names.
Take it easy on both of you.
I know how easy it is to be angry rather than hurt/sad.
:ghug3