yeh oh so familure I am a fairly long time in recover and re-feeling when I am hurt by someone or "resentment is still what gives me the most trouble, when I have reacted to a situation and not responded all of this stuff kicks in! I do the praying for the person, the invontary on me, the empathy for where the other person@ and it can still be difficult to stop re-feeling, most times Ive had to accept and live with the re-feeling process like a constant companion and this "finding the hook" thing s interesting thanks for Oprah:-)