Hey gneiss! You're in fine company with this dilemma. I am working the program around being an atheist. Ignore people who say you can't. There are no laws in AA, just suggestions.
As my sober time has increased, I feel less and less prickly about the praying, etc. It helps a lot of people and that's why they do it, not to **** me off
Part of what I came to realize when things were less
all about me! But I did come on SR and rant my head off about it at first. For me, the good in AA outweighs the god. That said, I am always grateful for the secular forum here.