Welcome to SR GN -
I just have this to say and I hope it is accepted for what is, an opinion.
I am hoping you don't blow your sobriety because of your friend. When you made the point that "sometimes i wonder why im doing this if hes not even gonna talk to me when im sober," I thought uh oh. Maybe he sees that you are only into it because of him and right now he's trying his best and doesn't want to be responsible for your sobriety as well as his. Also you may remind him of the using time in his life and that wound may be too fresh for him to deal with right at the moment. We could speculate for forever, but I would concentrate on you at the moment IF sobriety is what you seek for yourself.
Again welcome to SR and I am sorry your friend isn't being attentive to you at the moment.