Bonnie, Just as my daughter has to deal with the fact that she can never be a "normal" young adult, I have to deal with the fact that I can never be a "normal" mother. If you feel okay about getting him the ski pass then do it. As long as you realize that a gift is a gift with no strings attached I think you will be fine about giving it. Hugs, Marle
P.S. My daughter is moving out tomorrow. She and "normal" boyfriend got an apartment today. I will most likely get her an iron and ironing board for a move-in gift. (Don't think that she can trade that for drugs, but you never know
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