Sorry Reddmax, I think everyone has the same issue. We all want to use the rational and compromising parts of our being. That just doesn't work with addicts. I get most of that opinion from posts on SR. If there was a way to turn it around on them, it would be great.
One thing my XAGF would say is that she was very calculated when it came to drinking, and I said her calculator was broke. It's like dealing with a child at this point, the only thing is, I don't have to raise her.