Originally Posted by
laurie6781 
Anytime I am putting "expectations" on my gestures, helping someone, etc, I AM BEING CO-DEPENDENT.
When I do something for another, WITHOUT MOTIVES, just because I want to, then my 'codie side' is in remission. Unfortunately, none of use, especially me, lol is perfect. But that is the "ideal."
Ooh, I like that! Thinking about it, I find it quite easy to behave like that with my children. I found it much, much harder to sustain it with my XAGF. On the other hand, I'm a lot more aware of this kind of thing now...
Mr B.