Hope and Prayer and others...
One of the the things that I have trouble with is that in a loving and respectful relationship, actions that you might do are ok, while in a co dependent relationship they're not.
In a loving relationship, sometimes you could do household chores for your SO. In a co-dependent relationship, you have to do them or they don't get done.
My AW manipulates me by guilt and bullying. If you loved me, you do this. You need to excuse my behavior if you love me. You should feel this way or that way. If you suspect me of this, I'll give you reason to suspect.
I don't think my situation is co-dependent, I think its emotional blackmail.
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