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All interesting viewpoints.
My biggest indicator of whether I'm being codie is how I feel, in my gut about something. If someone is doing something and I'm getting that sick feeling, then I have to look at why...especially if an A is involved. Am I trying to make sense out of something that doesn't make sense? I'm a recovering addict...most of what I did when I was using didn't make sense to anyone but me or another addict.
I also understand the emotional/mental blackmail thing, but I have learned how to step back, realize it for what it is (someone trying to control or manipulate my thoughts and feelings) and accept that this is THEIR issue. It took me a long, long time to get to that point.
Sorry if this doesn't make sense...kinda hard to put into words what I'm thinking
Hugs and prayers!
Amy