Originally Posted by
Reddmax 
That's an interesting viewpoint Mr. B. and LTD. I have responsibility for my own feelings.. Even if she maliciously does things to hurt or bully me.
Redd
But I wonder if it's codependent to focus too much feelings/thinking on another person? I don't know. . . but I do suspect that in a healthy relationship I wouldn't be worrying so much about what the other person is doing or not doing. I'd be free to live my own life and let him live his- but at the same time sharing our life together. Sharing is the key word for me- STBXAH was not engaged in our marriage. We didn't talk about life, our dreams, we didn't share responsibilities. But I spent an awful lot of time thinking about him and what he was doing- or not. I think I just answered my own question.