Amy,
Your response makes me question my own co-dependency. The environment I'm in is different that what you note. What happens is that the AW will get upset, say or do goofy or mean things, and then not tell me what caused the action. Or, she will get upset because of something I do, that to me, is perfectly rational. She worries about the level of attention she gets from me, or how much I desire to please her, and acts on those feelings.
I understand that people have bad days and can be grouchy. What I don't understand is when people act out, and punish other people in their lives because they have issues.
So.... I think to a certain extent, co-dependency is not what I'm suffering... I'm suffering emotional and mental blackmail.
Aha!
Redd