Redd, it is my opinion that codependency is bad in any relationship. Codependency is not healthy in any situation. It robs people of their responsibility for themselves. That includes their own well being. We aren't meant to control others. Only ourselves. We aren't meant to solve other people's problems. Only our own. That doesn't mean we can't have compassion and can't be supportive. Just that there is a line that can be crossed and it's not healthy for anyone to cross that line.