Don't know why, but ever noticed that when you are up to your armpits in S**T, other people try and dump their load onto you? Stay strong, deal with what YOU need to and tell them step sis is their problem and you don't need or want her as a lodger. Agree it may be easier for you to have hubby's gear out of your place, but that is for you to decide. Keep on saying NO to what you don't want til others get the message. You have plenty of caring folk here for emotional support, motivation and prayer. God bless