What helped me to leave the relationship with my ex ab/f was thinking about my grandmother. She was with my grandfather for 60 years. He drank the whole time. She was in and out of the psych wards with worry. It never got any better and he died from it at 85. She did not cry at the funeral. Instead, that's when her real life began. She was 80. I don't want to wait that long for my real life. I left.
KJ