jrsl, welcome to SR! Have a read of the sticky posts too if you haven't yet - they are at the top of the forum and full of wonderful info on this disease and how it affects all involved - something I had no idea of when I first came here.
You sound as though you are watching his actions and giving little credit to the words. This is great! Addicts tend to say one thing and do another so watching was the best way to understand what was happening with my exabf and get a reality focus so decisions could be made for my happiness and health.
Keep focusing on you, keep reading and posting!
Love Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx