Don't want to get into an argument about AA here, as I know very little about it, but what kind of person gives that kind of person the responsibilty to be a sponser (does that make sense?!) It seems to me that she was in for her own 'glory', rather than any true caring altruistic reason.
You need help when you're down, not that kind of attitude. I'm sorry it went wrong and hope you find the right person.
God, people like that make me want to be violent!!
sas