Family Home.....
Hi Ria,
I finally had to evict my Brother from our family home of fifty years because he was involved in alcohol & drugs. He was not keeping the house taxes up to date, utilities paid & had no home owner's insurance.
We were left the home together in our Dad's will and what a mess it turned out to be. My Brother had people renting the bedrooms that used drugs also.
I hadn't been there for three years because I couldn't get ahold of my Brother so found out all of this when I went to get help to clean out the house.
We live an eight hour drive from the coast where the house was. It was so overwhelming to me when I got there and saw the mess...it looked like some of the crack houses I have seen on tv in the inside of the house. I was there five days and the cops & FBI had been there looking for my Brother & a renter. When I saw these guys talking with the contractor I had a feeling that they were undercover cops of somekind but couldn't believe it that they were FBI officers.
I finally found my Brother through a friend of his that had him living with him to detox off of methametaphine & alcohol. I hired a contractor to do the job of cleaning out the house and lo & behold someone walked in and wanted to buy the house as is...and fix it up themselves.
I felt my husband and I were in harms way until the house was insured or sold due to the fact I was half owner and if someone died or was killed in that environment we could be held liable.
I had been paying the property taxes for six years with the late fee tacked on because my Brother didn't do it. Now my Brother is still with his sober friend and his oldest son is taking part in his Dad's care.
I still believe something good can come out of something bad. My Brother just had a heart attack so is like a volcano waiting to explode. His son took him to a doc & he told my Brother he had to stop drinking if he wanted to live longer.
My circumstances are much different than yours but simular with your Mom. If she can go live with her Mom it would be good...but if not, you will end up paying all of the household expenses besides your own...if she is unable to do the upkeep of everything that comes with taking care of a home.
I wish you the best of luck. :ghug3
kelsh