Someone who judges you like that, when you are reaching out for help, is toxic to you.
I'm not an AA person, so I say this about anybody in your life that you're dealing with.
I absolutely remember how lost and alone I felt when I stopped drinking and I didn't know which way to turn. Reaching out is very hard and I'm sorry you were treated like that.
Of course, ultimately, you do need to do the hard work yourself. No one can do it for you. I think it sounds like you've learned a lot and you're ready to move forward.
Keep reading and posting.