I also don't think that she hates you, Painter. The person that she really hates is herself. You are just in the way so to speak. I remember calling CPS on my daughter's abf. His kids were living in filth and had no food while he and my daughter gorged on drugs. To this day she still defends him even though she is clean and no longer with him. Addicts just don't see things the way we do and even when clean it takes a long, long time for their brains to heal enough to be able to admit their mistakes. Continue to take care of you and your grandchildren. Hugs, Marle