Sylvan,
I realize I am not responding to this as the others have. My mom and dad did not pass from alcoholism. But....I have to say, as the mom of two girls, ages 10 and 12, your post really knocked the breath out of me. It was as if it could be one of MY girls writing this about me one day IF I don't choose a different path for myself now.
Thank you for your brutal honesty in dealing with your mom's horrible disease and her death. It really hit home to me.
This is the crossroads for me that will change everything. Not only the course of MY life but of my daughters, my husband and even my grandchildren that are yet to be.
I pray you will find peace and grace as you go thru the process of dealing with this situation. I just wanted you to know how significant your post was to me.
God Bless