((Painter))
Your daughter doesn't hate you. She's just mad at herself and taking it out on you.
She has NO clue what is best for the kids right now, and is just wanting things to be right in her little world, which means letting her ABF get what he wants, which makes it easier for her.
You are doing exactly what you need to, and you are taking care of the kids.
Her lashing out at you really has nothing to do with you...she's angry at her own circumstances and you're "safe" to lash out at because you're her mom and you're going to love her no matter what. It's not FAIR, and it HURTS, but that's what we A's do until we find recovery and learn to appreciate people.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy