Originally Posted by
cyclelady 
Can the 9yo seriously see this?
Absolutely! I sure knew from a very young age to recognize the danger signs of drunkeness as a mean of self preservation. I didn't have the words perhaps or the understanding of what drunkenness was but I'd guess that by age 5-6 I knew.
You AH will do what he will do. You cannot control him and change him. You can change how you deal with it. You can help your child deal with it. You child(ren) need you to help them, put them first. THey are being damaged but that damage can be mitigated if you help them by taking your focus off what your AH does or does not do and putting your focus on yourself and your child(ren).