(((Hurt)))
Hi neighbor
If your like me, the thing thats getting to you is the fact that you gave him a choice, clean or out, and he chose out. Maybe his plan is a good one, but the fact remians that he chose "out" over 'clean".
I deal with a very similar situation. When my son (same age) is staying at my home, I assume by his behavior that he's clean. When he diappears for various reasons (that he claims) my heart tells me why.
He's following the rules of my home, but that doesn't remove the reality. I struggle with that often.
Hang in there...
(((Hugs)))