Originally Posted by
TTOSBT 
I know that my gf counts her days not checking up on her daughter on Facebook as sobriety days. She actually says, I have 8 days of facebook sobriety. It works for her
That's brilliant TTOSBT.
I found that the desire to check up on my x started to fade when I finally got on with my life, and found other things, people and situations that I loved more. As my self esteem grew with counseling and Al-Anon, I realized slowly that he was a jerk that didn't deserve my time - ANY of it. Eventually I just didn't give a s*** any more. It's been years now since I've cared enough to spend so much as 30 seconds wondering what he's doing online.
Before that, in the worst of times, I kept a rubber band on my wrist and gave it a nasty snap when I started to go out and check on X. One of those big blue ones from the broccoli. It's like having to pay the cuss jar
Weird, but it worked.