I'm not quite sure if I hadn't gone to therapy and alanon that I would have ever understood the "letting go" part. It was hard for me as a mom to "let go" when I thought I was just doing my job. Thank heavens I was led to counciling and alanon and somehow happened to find this site. Thanks for starting my day with some good thoughts Ann. Your a Godsent to this site. Have a good one!! Smiles, Bonnie