recovery takes time and tho (he) has always been doing the me me me things which isnt fare either way . but in recovery its the way it has to be , He has to take care of number one being ( he) as selfish as it sounds thats what gets us sober takin care of number 1, Once he takes care of his issues and works on why he was using then hes able to step forward and make the amends for his wrongs . all this takes time its not an over nite fix , how we wish it was its a life time process . Some relationships never return to the way they were all the romance and fireworks that brought you two together . Maybe you should distance your self from one another so you can both focus on whats needed in you lifes . absence does make the heart grow fonger and gives one another time to reflect on things . and like everyone said Alanon is a great program and you should give it a try , cant hurt can only help ! may peace and serenity be with you today .. Mrs O