Who knows, maybe starting fresh with a new counselor might be just what you need. I also spent a lot of time reading and soul-searching. Not just codependency books, but books about "how to change your life."
Buying into what others say about me is a sign that I'm not very confident in who I believe I am. If someone's opinion of me can sway my own opinion of me, I probably need to look at what I believe about myself and how true it really is.....
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