Originally Posted by
4gottenagain 
Now that he's clean I thought he would come around and want to make amends with me, be with me, be close to me. But, he's farther away.
So, it sounds as though he is not living up to your expections and you are faced with an either/or situation.
Either figure out what's in it for you to continue to hold onto these expectations of him and the relationship or,
Let go of your expectations and allow yourself to grieve for a reasonable period of time for what might have been and come up with a new life plan.