AMEN LaTeeDa!! Couldn't have said it better myself. I now have more money, the utilities went down, house is clean unless "I" leave it in a mess, I sleep better, less stress, less worry!!! It took me a few weeks to feel the FULL effect, but I can definately tell the difference now. I took on the new motto "It's NOT MY problem".
Hang in there SilverBerry. A better life is just around the corner for you. I can remember last year on New Years Eve, I was visiting a friend in Louisiana and I kept thinking, "well, this year is going to be full of changes for me! Thsi will be the last NYE I am stressing over him and his issues". It was sad in a way, but now, looking back, I am so very grateful! You will be too. The thoughts of him, feeling sorry that he can't get it together, etc... will probably not go away anytime soon, but you will learn to manage them. Just remember, This Too Shall Pass! For every bad, depressing day you have, there will be wonderful days to follow it!
Blessings to you and keep your chin up.