There are some things my H won't talk about and I don't care. I don't try to think for him or pretend to know or even want to know what is going on in his head. His actions speak for him.
I do not want to change him or try to make him do anything. I have on occasion asked him to help me do something and if he doesn't I find someone else. I think when I ask someone else to help me it is really much more likely to get done. Paying someone else to help me do something is in the long run much cheaper. I doubt he cares at all. ho hum...
I am not rid of him yet but, I am packing him up though. He gets pretty pissie when things don't go his way like a baby who needs his diaper changed. I ain't changing it that's for sure.