It doesn't matter how many margaritas someone prepares for me - I'm the one who has to pick them up and drink them. It's possible he would have prepared them for himself if they didn't do it.
I am not the "beer police" as someone here put it. I'm also not going to change the conventional wisdom on alcohol, alcoholism and "will power."
I think a great example of how the disease can be minimized is in the title of this thread - a MISHAP. Drinking by someone who has attempted suicide doing it is serious business.
All I can change is me. What do I want for my life?
Good luck - the situation sounds toxic.