jbo...first of all, WELCOME!!! So glad you're here! Now, more importantly, fantastic job that you realize that there might be a problem with your drinking, are being open about it with you wife AND are taking steps to correct it!!! You don't realize how many hurdles you have already over-come! A lot of people coming on here still aren't ready to even admit that they should be stopping.
Post often, reach out often, you will never find this place empty.