rozied, when I was talking to one of AS probation officers on the phone other day from court, I asked that he would give my AS a few messages for me before going to jail, and the order of protection set in place.
The PO told me "he's heard it all before, it has to come from with in him." I said "I know." We as mothers think we have to be right in there directing our children no matter what age. If we don't say something, how is he going to know? If we say something we feel guilty, or they try to make us feel guilty.
No matter the outcome, you did the right thing for you.
You're right it feels so much better when not in the drama. There is Peace!
Huggs,
NH7