((((Crushed))))
It sure is frustrating...been there too and my daughter even had insurance coverage. But they seem to want you to fail repeatedly before considering in patient. Even then, she had to go 1,500 miles away to be covered (a process they do where they treat it like all day outpatient in terms of billing and just charge a very modest room and board fee...Whetever it takes I guess. But I know exactly what you mean about not even being the person with the addiction and being ready to scream. There truly are not enough rehabs or treatments avaialble, particularly to those who need it the most and can least afford it.
I hope that some of his friends in recovery may have some suggestions. If not inpatient, any chance of intensive outpatient and a recovery house?
Sending hugs...Don't give up hope...If he is ready and willing, something is coming.