I am sorry you are going through this. However, your A is in active addiction and thus totally narcissistic and in his mind the world revolves around him.
Only you will know when Enough is Enough. Only you will know when you have realized that you are much better than this treatment.
Until then, please keep posting, letting us know how You are doing. Get to some Alanon and/or Naranon, keep posting, we do care very much!
Love and hugs,