Thanks guys for the reply. It helps more than you know. I thought about this in the night last night and justo is the closest. I thought about acting like I don't know she's coming. Because in all actuallity I don't know she's coming. When she shows up to our house or business and gets in my husband's face, then he can let her have it. It will be a shock, but that might be the best medicine. Since my son told me and I do know she is coming I don't like keeping something like this from my husband. But since mommy in law doesn't get the message, maybe a little rage would work. Then I am not in the middle of it. I can just stand there and be supportive of my husband and she gets what she deserves. I will have to think on this some more, but I like the shock therapy approach.
Thanks again everyone.