Cats,
when I read this reading this morning - I thought I can't wait for Cats to post this one!! It is soooo very good.
I have it highlighted in several different colors because it has spoken to me at several different times.
I have learned thru Al-Anon and my personal journey in recovery that TRUST is not the enemy. Basing my decisions on a person's words rather than their actions usually turns out to be a negative thing for me.
My answer to many people in my life (not just the alcoholics/addicts) is that "It has worked out best for me to base my decisions on a person's actions not their words. Once I see actions, then I can make a healthy decision."
It doesn't tell the other person that they "have to do things" it just lets them know how I make my decisions. Their actions are completely left to their decisions.
Thanks again for this great reading!!
HUGS,
Rita