Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
What's not fair is putting your mother in a position of responsibility for your stepdad. No one can "make" someone get help, and even if she did, it probably wouldn't do any good because it would be her idea instead of his.
It is completely understandable that you don't want your daughter to be around him, though. So, maybe you can come up with a plan where your daughter can spend time with your mom away from your stepdad.
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I understand that she can't force him to get help. But she hasn't even mentioned it to him. She won't even acknowledge that there is a problem, and she makes me feel guilty that I would deny her her granddaughter because he is "functioning" so its fine. She is responsible for that. If it was that important to her that she be able to spend time with her granddaughter, don't you think she might at least mention to her husband that there is a problem?