Originally Posted by
Cricketkdw 
I don't want to cut my mother who loves my daughter so much out of our lives, but it doesn't seem fair to me that she won't make my stepdad get help. Any advice, experiences, etc would be so great. Thanks.
What's not fair is putting your mother in a position of responsibility for your stepdad. No one can "make" someone get help, and even if she did, it probably wouldn't do any good because it would be her idea instead of his.
It is completely understandable that you don't want your daughter to be around him, though. So, maybe you can come up with a plan where your daughter can spend time with your mom away from your stepdad.
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