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This is my first time on this site. I found it while searching for answers on the internet. Here is my story.

I am 24 years old with a beautiful 21 month old daughter. I currently live with my mother and stepfather, but will soon be getting married and moving out. My mother was in a car accident 11 years ago. She was in a coma and had multiple brain surgeries following the accident. Miraculously she lived through it and came out almost back to her normal self. She is a second grade teacher. During her recovery time she chatted on the internet alot, as she could not drive and lived with her mother who took care of her. She met a man on the internet and they were married 7 years ago. He moved to our city where he lived with my mom and sister. I lived with my father. I didn't know him very well until I got pregnant at the age of 21 and moved in with my mom and stepdad so I could save my money. I moved to my own place right before my daughter was born. During my pregnancy, while I lived with them, I knew that my stepfather drank, but didn't notice anything out of the ordinary. He smoked like a train which I found to be gross, but it didn't bother me. He and my mom seemed happy enough, and my mom is a good Christian so I knew he must be a good man. Four months ago my daughter and I had to move back in with my mom and stepdad. At this time I realized that my stepfather is an alcoholic. He drinks from dusk til dawn, at home, at work, in the car, non stop. He smells of cigarettes and alcohol all the time. He doesn't talk much. He doesn't DO much. He needs help but my mother just ignores it. She tells me that he is a functioning alcoholic, so its okay. He would never hurt us or her. However, I am moving out, not only due to the fact that I am getting married soon, but also because I do not want my daughter around him. He is always very good to her, but I find it unacceptable that the man she calls PaPa is a drunk and even more unacceptable that my mother makes excuses for it. I plan to tell my mother, some way, that my daughter will not be coming over to stay with them by herself anymore because of his actions. I know that this will hurt her deeply. I have asked her to make him get help, but she thinks he will divorce her. She couldn't make it on her own financially or emotionally. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to cut my mother who loves my daughter so much out of our lives, but it doesn't seem fair to me that she won't make my stepdad get help. Any advice, experiences, etc would be so great. Thanks.