Normalita
I am sorry you are going thru this.
My suggestion would be instead of you writing the letter, it might be better if your husband wrote it and he was the on that got the restraining order. She will still be mad, thinking you put him up to it, but at least you won't be the one to signing the letter or filing the papers. Just a thought.
Hope it all goes well for you. My prayers will be with you during this stressful time.
Barb