Originally Posted by
marle 
I tell my daughter that sometimes people can't give you what you want out of them. It is their issue to work through.
I've said the same thing to my husband and daughter. She finally grasped the idea just the other day and that was after months and months of therapy then rehab. My husband intellectually gets it but emotionally refuses it. It's no surprise he doesn't go to meetings or my therapist.
I had to put my foot down hard around here. The last time I
chose to mediate neither of them liked it. I point blank told them if they weren't willing to change for the other person they couldn't ask for it either so put up or shut up.
I haven't heard a peep out of either of them since then
