Thank you Impurrfect. That is exactly what I need to do. Get out of their business. Old hurts are hard to heal and 4 months isn't enough for him, we went thru 7 years of hell. My job was to keep everyone happy, when I was probably the most unhappy. I told my husband this morning that I did not want to get into it I just wanted him to think about what he was saying to her and in front of her children, he would never let anyone talk to her like that so why would he. Boys learn how to treat their mother by watching how other men treat her. He knows it is wrong he just sometimes says things before he thinks. I talked to her also and told her that when that happens that maybe she should just think about saying, I don't deserve that and I am trying to change. We'll see what today brings. Thanks for the suggestions, I LOVE THIS SITE!
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