I left my xAH a little more than a year ago, have been divorced for about 2 months. There is no way I am ready to get into another relationship (although I now allow the thought that one may come someday) because I am still working on my own issues and discovering who I am. I know that until I am well on the road to my own recovery another relationship would be a mistake for me because I cannot truly give myself to a new relationship until I more clearly understand who I am, what I want and where I am going.
Sure they are moments when I miss being in a relationship. But a large part of that, for me at any rate, are my codependent tendencies wanting to reach out and find someone. I know that until I am healthy and know myself, any new relationship would not be based on healthy needs. It was be based on the old unhealthy needs. I don't want to do that ever again.