omg.......
To give a lil background, my RAH and I still have issues, even after 19 months sobriety. We have been married 16 yrs and have 3 sons.
I have been seeing a therapist for a few months now and am on antidepressant and anti-anxiety meds. RAH was referred by my therapist to another who is also a RA, and he has been seeing him for 6 wks or so. A yr ago, he tried a few different antidepressants, but didnt like taking any so quit.
Last wk, at my therapists encouragement, I had an appt with RAH's therapist. I knew that my husband would not be forthcoming with the biggest issue in our marriage -sexual. He can be demanding and vulgar, etc.
This Friday, we have an appt together with his therapist to discuss the issues (the therapist thinks he may have a sex addiction).
Anyway, Monday night, RAH took our middle son (and our 7 yr old) to his football practice. I was with our 15 yr old at his practice. On my way home, I got a call from a coach saying RAH FORGOT our 7 yr old at the field and a friend was bringing him home. Apparently, he didnt realize he was missing until our 12 yr old told him as he was getting in the shower!!!
I was upset and let him know when I got home. Then RAH blurts out how his 18 yr old nephew wants to try living with us and promises to be good and go back to school and not drink and how he told him he needed to talk with me. This is the kid that RAH had planned on staying with us about 4 months ago without my knowledge. The kid shows up one day and that very night (3am) I catch him wasted on the corner of our property with one of my 15 yr olds friends! The kids parents are in denial. He quit school in 10th grade, has a tattoo on his hand, doesnt work, and alternates living with his parents and his grandparents up north. So, I was really upset now. We dont need anything extra on our plates right now!!! DUH! He said the kid deserves a second chance. Well thats fine but not by putting our children at risk.
The next day, I received a voice mail from his therapist saying that RAH called him because he was concerned with my mental state. WTF?