Yeah for detachment. Your post got me rereading Codependent no more last night for the 3rd or 4th time, and it was good for me. Detachment doesn't happen all at once, though. It is an ongoing process. Sometimes I feel like my son has octopus-like suction on my heart and my life. I have to peel them off one at a time. And when I'm not on my guard, he sneaks back in and tries to get ahold of me again. But the good thing is, once you realize that you need to detach, you begin the process of understanding and discovering yourself. And that is a great,worthwhile journey. Good luck Greeneyed with your recovery.
krhea