Originally Posted by
nobingealready 
You said in your post that you are communicating more now, I take it that's a positive thing? If so, and if there are no real pressing issues that would indicate splitting up, then maybe now is not the time to make that change since you are going through a big change already with getting sober.
NOBA,
Yes, it's a very positive thing. Really, I don't want to make that change, but it does cross my mind at the low points. I was relating to your comment and then thinking, yeah there are some positives to being independent but then thought...yeah but I'd be more likely to drink...then thought hey, there's another reason I want to stay married....then thought, well that might be a screwed up reason. Kind of a "one thought leads to another" thing. Much happier to deal with that than a "one drink leads to another" thing.
Thanks for the feedback, it's helpful.
Wanted to respond to Jules62 here too but not sure how to put 2 Quotes in one post.